What NOT to say when someone has a miscarriage

So.. i had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. It sucks and sometimes life kicks you in the nuts but you have to pick yourself up and get on with it as life does go on. And as devastating as it is, i have learned that it is common (that is not to take away from how unfair and upsetting the experience is). Friends, family and colleagues are all very supportive and try to help and make you feel better and sometimes this involves some gems like these:

"sometimes things like this is just natures way of telling you there is something wrong with you"
"it doesn't matter, you can always try again"
"It's really common, so early on it's not really a thing, just like a bad period"

And from a pregnant colleague on learning that I had miscarried "hmm, i sometimes worry when i cant feel the baby move, but then it does and then it reassures me that everything is ok". 

All of this is of course meant in the nicest possible way.  I suppose its an awkward subject for people and they don't really know what to say.  But whatever you say, don't say any of the above - it'll make you come across like a twat.

Im back!

I've logged on again after a few months of not updating - lots happening and unfortunately not all good.  Sadly i suffered a miscarriage and then my grandfather died so i've been taking it very easy recently and therefore have not been updating this..

Now that i'm feeling better and getting back into the swing of things I am going to be updating this more regularly.